I did a tryout session at a pop choir tonight! Mixed feelings; singing was nice, teacher was very good, welcoming atmosphere.
But geez. Large group, in a small space, close together, I don't like!! 😅 both covid-wise and in terms of social overstimulation.. so tired afterwards 😩
Another thing that I had already noticed in the previous singing class.. and I guess it's in the nature of these things, but they separate the group into men and women, I get placed among the men, and so then when the teacher addresses your subgroups you get auto-misgendered constantly lol (I'm fine with "him" pronouns, but it's being called a man that I don't vibe with somehow.. or "sir" ("meneer") even worse lol)
I understand, it's the voice.. it's how it works in choirs, pragmatically. But it puts me off! 👩🏼🦱
Also socially it's weird.. the women largely basically ignore the men and the other way around, and the guys were all chummy with me as a potential new member, and I know they mean well, but I don't feel comfortable around them so much as I feel around women, and arghh!
It feels just odd to me that this is how society works I guess! at least in some groups..
With painting class, this wasn't a thing at all! So I guess it depends per groups/subculture!
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benda
in reply to bazkie 👩🏼💻 • • •i make the same point for sports. like boxing has weight classes. why not just do the same for all sports? anyways what do i know, just seems like it makes more sense to me.
sorry you had to go through that 🙁
bazkie 👩🏼💻
in reply to benda • • •well, in a way that's what happens in singing classes/choirs - you get for example 2 or 3 sections from low to high.
most men have lower voices, so usually it's a bass section with men, and then the other section/sections are women.
BUT! I do have a bit higher voice than most men, and I love to be singing at a range more on the high end or what I can reach, than the low end. so I bet I could do just fine in the middle section, which was all women in this group.
but I wasn't asked or anything, you kinda just get told, oh hi you're a guy so we other guys will sit next to you and we'll be the bass section! and I'm not really someone to want to put the attention on me and tell them I want to sing with the higher group 😅
and even if I did.. it's just weird to me that kinda "automatically" when you are new, the guys are all diving on you like "OH HI FELLOW BRO DUDE! WELCOME TO THE GUYS SECTION! WE'RE VERY MALE!", while the women say hi to me but otherwise kinda hang together and semi-ignore me because then men had already soaked me up in their clique! 😅 🤣
benda
in reply to bazkie 👩🏼💻 • • •bazkie 👩🏼💻
in reply to benda • • •benda
in reply to bazkie 👩🏼💻 • • •someone told me you hit both low and high notes ;)
bazkie 👩🏼💻
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