Here's a thought for cis men who, when women tell you to stop performing toxic masculinity because it is harming you, say "but do you have any idea what that would cost me socially? Men and women both constantly demand that I perform their idea of masculinity."
Women who have refused to perform the requirements of femininity absolutely know what it can cost, and we are telling you, it is better to accept that price than continuing living in a system that destroys you.
Artemis
Unknown parent • • •If we refuse to have babies, people lose their minds. If we refuse to be nice and sweet, people scold us. If we refuse to dress in ways that are socially acceptable for feminine women (whether by being too masculine or too "provocative") that opens us up to assault & transphobic violence (funny how those bathroom bills make it dangerous for any woman to go out in public without looking sufficiently feminine).
We know.
So don't tell me that you can't refuse to perform masculinity.