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I want to think out loud about writing for a second before I go into proper weekend mode, so if you hate that and find it self-indulgent or whatever, this is your warning. (I think feeling weird about feeling weird about writing is what keeps people from writing, and I don’t think gatekeeping about it is anything but an unproductive and ego-protective bummer, myself, but that’s just me.)

I’m in permanent awe of people who can think and write with clarity and depth *and speed* about crunchy things, but I also try to remember that it’s is a lot like muscle training. I am trying all the time for clarity (for various readerships, differing by piece) and depth, but I am not fast.

I draft quickly! I write hundreds of thousands of words a year, most of which get scrapped. Getting all the elements built and lined up right for anything complex takes me months, which is very annoying.

And I have health constraints and family commitments and non-writing work, so it is discouraging when my bits of writing time add up so slowly. But! Just continuing to draft and read and edit down and talk to friends and edit down and read another thing and edit down does eventually get somewhere.

(And fwiw, the pace and depth of the best fedi interactions have been really generative and supportive of that snail-pace grind, much more so than faster networks.)

But when I look back ten years or even two years or a year, I can see that I’m able to handle the ideas with a little more skill, and even though many of the things I’m wrestling with are still eluding me, I believe I’ll eventually get it here.

I hate not knowing, to a comical degree! I do not like acts of faith! I sure hate the sense of inadequacy to the task. But as with my stupid physical therapy and my initially terrible cooking and everything else, I think it’s just about practice.

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really like the connection between the frustrations of PT and of writing. both are slogs sometimes, but you look back and think "wow I really HAVE made progress, but in ways extremely hard to name"
I know the thought of "I need to be certain to say something aloud and don't now anything here for sure". When I'm in that state of mind, I flip it around and note that I am certain about some things - that I am curious to know something. Being certain about not knowing and wanting to explore can be a powerful place to think and write from.
@Erin Kissane The proceeding four posts are why long form macroblogging sites like friendica exist, so you can post your post as one post instead of a post with three or sometimes fifteen successive comments.
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The simplest looking stuff is the hardest to create, always. (As a fan of your writing, thank you)

"I write hundreds of thousands of words a year, most of which get scrapped."

Just this alone is already very insightful. You'll hear the same from musicians who make a ton of loops and basic outlines of their ideas, just to focus on those few that really work. And I'd imagine this goes for many other creative areas.

I appreciate when others have long thinking-aloud threads here. They tell me you're working through something you don't exactly know yet. It's the opposite of self-indulgent, because you're letting work in progress out for others to participate in. That's how I understand the gesture - for dialogue and collaboration. Go on!