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Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •I was married to an abusive alcoholic.
Then I dated a pretty manipulative and creepy guy.
I left both of those relationships, because they were not healthy.
And it fucking SUCKS to hear men out saying "women want to be abused." Fuck you very much. Blame the abuser, not their victim.
So a man manipulates a woman and you get mad at her for being preyed upon? What the actual fuck is that about??? How is that an appropriate attitude to have about victims of actual abuse?
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •When a man who knows and cares about me starts talking about his dating life and goes off on "why do women like jerks?" it's the worst fucking feeling.
Like, dude, that's me. I married a real jerk, a real piece of shit. I thought he loved me. I thought I could help him. I thought we'd both grow and emotionally develop together. I thought we were a team.
And by the time I figured out we weren't? Well, then I had to figure out how to leave.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •I know men who have been in abusive relationships, and you don't see me out here claiming that men want to be abused or that they generally prefer cruel and manipulative women over kind and caring ones.
No. I sympathize with and support my fellow abuse survivors. I don't fucking shame people for the fact that some fucking asshole decided it would be fun to fuck up their life.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •The only reason it feels shameful to identify myself as a victim of spousal abuse is that for some reason some people who hear that are going to make the determination that I am gullible and masochistic, and if I had just been smarter, no one could ever have hurt me.
I don't get how women are excoriated whenever we are perceived as "disloyal" but when we "stand by our man" the way we were taught to, holding out hope that he will change, we're dumb bitches who want men to hurt us.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •I'm so sorry that I gave my partner second chances. I'm sorry that I listened and tried to evaluate if maybe he was right and I was wrong. I'm sorry I forgave him for things. I'm sorry I let things go. I'm sorry I hoped for better from him. I'm sorry I tried to help him deal with his emotional issues.
What a dumb bitch I am for loving someone and not throwing in the towel the moment I sensed something was wrong. But what's that? Oh, you would have condemned me harshly for that too? Cool. Cool.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •By the way, I am not fucking sorry for any of it. I wish I had understood what was happening sooner and left. I wish I had not accepted mistreatment.
But now that I'm in a healthy relationship, all those things that kept me with that shitty guy are the things that make THIS relationship work. I don't assume the worst about him. I consider the possibility I could be wrong. I offer forgiveness. I am supportive when things are tough.
My ex was literally taking advantage of my capacity for love.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •Why do women date assholes? Because we want to be in fulfilling relationships that we know require hard work, forgiveness, and compassion. So sometimes we try way, way harder than we should to make the dang relationship work, because we want to love and be loved.
I didn't want my abusive ex to treat me that awful way. I wanted him to treat ME the way I treated HIM.
PedestrianError
in reply to Artemis • • •Violet Madder
in reply to PedestrianError • • •Well, and abusive assholery is normalized as admirable go-getter behavior, so to some degree people are trained to seek unhealthy dynamics as if decency and kindness are weakness or AT LEAST pretty damned unfamiliar.
PedestrianError
in reply to PedestrianError • • •humanadverb
in reply to Artemis • • •You may be talking about a different dynamic, but especially re: all of those divorced angry guys, I see something more like...
They thought women were like vending machines, and you put in "the work" of being "nice" and they expect certain things back. Except women, like most people, don't enjoy entitlement, especially when, as is often the case, they didn't ask for those things in the first place.
So "I guess I should have been an asshole all along." YOU WERE DUDE THATS THE PROBLEM.