South Korea, US militaries will stage large-scale drills this month to address North Korean threats
https://apnews.com/article/south-korea-us-joint-military-drills-ulchi-north-korea-nuclear-23193fcdad2af7e1b9ae9a40f3b7396f?utm_source=flipboard&utm_medium=activitypub
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phantomwise
in reply to LadyButterfly she/her • • •Of the Air (cele/celes)
in reply to LadyButterfly she/her • • •Not to rush into relationships. That we can choose who to have relationships with and what that looks like. We aren't indebted to anybody for any reason whatsoever in terms of relationships, and they don't have to look like what others expect or even what we expect unless we have had that discussion explicitly.
We also wish we knew we were many things to do with our identity earlier: Demi*, relationship anarchists, polyamorous, transgender and transspecies, plural etc.
We also wish we learned how to love ourselves, probably the most important one of all, but we're just learning now.
*demisexual, demiromantic, demikinky, demisensual and demiaffectionate.
VioletSoftness
in reply to LadyButterfly she/her • • •LadyButterfly she/her
in reply to VioletSoftness • • •MystValkyrie
in reply to VioletSoftness • • •This one hits hard. And even after learning self-love, it still comes and goes. Self-love is certainly a verb and not a noun.
Like LadyButterfly said, there's just so many negative messaging and expectations directed at women. I don't think I'll ever measure up. Still, to quote a popular Millennial maxim, I am cringe but I am free.
MystValkyrie
in reply to LadyButterfly she/her • • •As a tall girl (like, really tall), where to buy clothes that had long enough sleeves to fit. I was confused for a long time because there isn't a single clothing store to my knowledge in the U.S. that actual sells tall sizes in the store. So I was buying T-shirts, dresses, and unflattering mens' clothes. But a lot of those stores do have tall sizes, just on their website and in limited quantities. All my friends are shorter, so no one in my life knew this, and generally have been skeptical when I tell them that no brick-and-mortars actually have anything that fits.
Another thing I've learned is that I should be slow to jump on seasonal clothes, and that you save money in the long run by spending more on clothes, or by buying vintage clothes that existed before the brands enshittified. Most of my favorite tops are vintage Eddie Bauers, LL Beans, and Long Tall Sallys that I've carefully picked up from Poshmark over the years, and they've really stood the test of time.
dandelion (she/her)
in reply to MystValkyrie • • •MystValkyrie
in reply to dandelion (she/her) • • •GrantUsEyes
in reply to MystValkyrie • • •Hildegarde
in reply to MystValkyrie • • •Are you comfortable being more specific about how very tall you are? I'm just under 6 ft (180 cm) and I've had far fewer issues with too short clothes than I expected.
Am I just unaware of proper fit, or not as tall as I think I am?
MystValkyrie
in reply to Hildegarde • • •long sleeves fit awkwardly below my wrists and
sit above my hips.
swelter_spark
in reply to LadyButterfly she/her • • •Taleya
in reply to swelter_spark • • •klemptor
in reply to LadyButterfly she/her • • •The power of saying no. I've always felt like the little white lie was great as a social lubricant - e.g., "Oh I'd love to come to your housewarming party but I've already got plans that day" when you know full well that you're available but you just don't wanna go.
But after a while, making excuses and remembering them later gets to be stressful. Especially for me because I'm horrible at lying lol. So I've learned to say things like "Thanks for inviting me, but I'm gonna sit this one out." It's a polite but clear 'no' and now I don't have to keep up a fib going forward.
To be fair, sometimes people don't like being told no, but I've been surprised to see that they'll usually accept it gracefully.
Zorsith
in reply to klemptor • • •My family (just my dads side i guess?) is horrible at taking no for an answer. It took me most of my life to realise they needed to be firmly (and quite literally) told to fuck off in order for them to take a NO seriously. Learning that is probably the only reason i still have any kind of relationship with my dad, i don't care to interact with the rest of them.
"No" is a complete sentence.
ElectricWaterfall
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