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The biggest proof that women don't actually want to date assholes is the fact that so many of the guys that say women want to date assholes are single or divorced.
Then I dated a pretty manipulative and creepy guy.
I left both of those relationships, because they were not healthy.
And it fucking SUCKS to hear men out saying "women want to be abused." Fuck you very much. Blame the abuser, not their victim.
So a man manipulates a woman and you get mad at her for being preyed upon? What the actual fuck is that about??? How is that an appropriate attitude to have about victims of actual abuse?
When a man who knows and cares about me starts talking about his dating life and goes off on "why do women like jerks?" it's the worst fucking feeling.
Like, dude, that's me. I married a real jerk, a real piece of shit. I thought he loved me. I thought I could help him. I thought we'd both grow and emotionally develop together. I thought we were a team.
And by the time I figured out we weren't? Well, then I had to figure out how to leave.
I know men who have been in abusive relationships, and you don't see me out here claiming that men want to be abused or that they generally prefer cruel and manipulative women over kind and caring ones.
No. I sympathize with and support my fellow abuse survivors. I don't fucking shame people for the fact that some fucking asshole decided it would be fun to fuck up their life.
The only reason it feels shameful to identify myself as a victim of spousal abuse is that for some reason some people who hear that are going to make the determination that I am gullible and masochistic, and if I had just been smarter, no one could ever have hurt me.
I don't get how women are excoriated whenever we are perceived as "disloyal" but when we "stand by our man" the way we were taught to, holding out hope that he will change, we're dumb bitches who want men to hurt us.
I'm so sorry that I gave my partner second chances. I'm sorry that I listened and tried to evaluate if maybe he was right and I was wrong. I'm sorry I forgave him for things. I'm sorry I let things go. I'm sorry I hoped for better from him. I'm sorry I tried to help him deal with his emotional issues.
What a dumb bitch I am for loving someone and not throwing in the towel the moment I sensed something was wrong. But what's that? Oh, you would have condemned me harshly for that too? Cool. Cool.
By the way, I am not fucking sorry for any of it. I wish I had understood what was happening sooner and left. I wish I had not accepted mistreatment.
But now that I'm in a healthy relationship, all those things that kept me with that shitty guy are the things that make THIS relationship work. I don't assume the worst about him. I consider the possibility I could be wrong. I offer forgiveness. I am supportive when things are tough.
My ex was literally taking advantage of my capacity for love.
Why do women date assholes? Because we want to be in fulfilling relationships that we know require hard work, forgiveness, and compassion. So sometimes we try way, way harder than we should to make the dang relationship work, because we want to love and be loved.
I didn't want my abusive ex to treat me that awful way. I wanted him to treat ME the way I treated HIM.
I think it's because society sets women and men up to have different expectations for heterosexual relationships. We all grow up surrounded by examples of men treating women, especially those they sleep with, badly. It's a norm we're all implicitly and sometimes explicitly taught to expect. That leads to a lot of bad behavior from men towards women and a lot of self/victim blaming from women - and a lot of cookies being baked for normal men who are straight but realize women are people.
@PedestrianError Well, and abusive assholery is normalized as admirable go-getter behavior, so to some degree people are trained to seek unhealthy dynamics as if decency and kindness are weakness or AT LEAST pretty damned unfamiliar.
I've always hated the term "marriage equality" because traditional marriage is so unequal and was literally invented to institutionalize inequality, but in some ways normalizing same sex relationships being visible in public has the potential to help improve straight relationships because now you can have a marriage without a presumed "head of household" in traditional terms. There's a reason straight women watch so much gay men's porn (besides hot male bodies): respect.
You may be talking about a different dynamic, but especially re: all of those divorced angry guys, I see something more like...
They thought women were like vending machines, and you put in "the work" of being "nice" and they expect certain things back. Except women, like most people, don't enjoy entitlement, especially when, as is often the case, they didn't ask for those things in the first place.
So "I guess I should have been an asshole all along." YOU WERE DUDE THATS THE PROBLEM.
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Iran tells the UN that Israeli-American aggression against the country constitutes a clear violation of the fundamental principles of international law.
*clap* *clap* *clap* #trump already know about this! It's not a surprise. It's...been there for a while. You know who doesn't have to pay it? Me. Because you have to make a gobzillion of CDN$ before you get taxed, so it's good for small #American #tech companies wishing to do business in #Canada. The tax only hurts his friends. NONE OF CANADA'S TARRIFS HURT THE SMALL GUY IN THE US!!!!! NONE OF THEM! #newsaljazeera.com/economy/2025/6/2โฆ
Conservative Supreme Court Justice Amy Coney Barrett stunned veteran bench watchers Friday with a blunt takedown of liberal Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson.
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Adam and John immediately screaming โJew hateโ makes them sound like blue haired liberals, because thatโs what THEY do.
To disparage and dismiss people and their reasoning as just โhateโ is disingenuous, especially when they disregard what we know as factual. Just as American Jews inflicted suffering on their own German Jews through their boycott pre-WW2 for the goal of an Israeli State, Israel and the U.S. are also just pawns in the game to those who remain unnamed and their agenda.
@Sirpantangelini I donโt follow any of these people. I read and create my own views based of what Jews and followers of Jewish philosophy themselves have said and written.
re: my post earlier about #cc #creativecommons #signals ... this article is from almost a year ago but came across it via the wikipedia page for robots.txt
lets be real. just like in meatspace, there will be no law or regulation that is going to fix this issue. we need dirtier tactics. a world that is safe from climate destroying, anti-social ai is a world that rids itself of it.
Former #Greens candidate Hannah Thomas, may lose an eye in #NSW #Australia after a small protest (35-50) people outside a F35 parts manufacturing plant where police turned violent and assaulted protesters.
F35s are used by the rogue state of #israel to genocide #palestine.
Looks like Jewish Nazis are now trying to make whole of Gaza (whoever it is they are not slaughtering & burning already) drug addicts by adding drugs to flour?
There was an episode in Star Trek Next Generation where one awful group does this exact thing to other groups.
What more depravities is this Jewish Nazi psychopathic society going to show all of us?
These Jewish Nazi psychos arent just harming Gazans for today, they are harming them permanently & in perpetuity
Besides, making everyone in society addicted to drugs will ensure society can be destroyed thoroughly & everyone will be made far more vulnerable to blackmails
I dont think there is any other society in this whole world is as Demonic as these Jewish Nazi psychos that are aided & abetted by Western Imperial Nazis.
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The less faith I have that weโll be able to work out a trade deal that the US leader will actually abide by, the more I think @pluralistic โs idea of turning Canada into the land of software lock bypassing could work.
It feels like the software-nuclear optionโit would do more harm than good if we didnโt dedicate ourselves to it for at least 5 years, and that would effectively stop talks.
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the real problem is getting the idea into the hands of those who could actually implement it. It's one thing to post on social media and blogs, but do negotiators and (prime) ministers even know it's an option to consider?
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USA, Europe, Canada and the Arab League are actively aiding and abetting the mass murder of babies, the deliberate deadly starvation of HUMANS in #Gaza
We have reached a level of barabarism that I never thought witnessing!
This world is beyond disgusting.
People simply living their lives and don't want to bother with these unpleasant images to disturb their comfortable lives.
I got approved for SNAP (food aid) less than 24 hours after I applied due to being $6.50 below the income cutoff for expedited application ๐
one big effect: I'll be much better able to afford occasional non-food expenses like allergy meds (if unmedicated, my allergies here are so bad during mid to late summer that I'm incapacitated, it's unreal how bad hay fever can get)
another: I'll more easily be able to take opportunities for alone time like the one I'm having now, without having to figure out how to drag multiple kilos of food with me like I did this time.
@benda thanks! I'm happy about it. I plan to continue my work on learning how to eat very cheaply without compromising nutrition too much. I want to stretch the aid as far as I can. but it will be a relief to be able to easily get items that don't often appear at food banks... things like soup base, sugar, and some fresh veggies here & there.
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>100K ppl now follow subreddits like r/ICE_raids, r/LaMigra, & r/EyesOnICE, where IMM lawyers, journalists, advocates, & everyday ppl post RT updates on raids & doc ABUSES w little oversight.
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โPalestine Action is not an armed group. It has never been responsible for any fatalities and does not pose any risk to the public. Its methods do involve property sabotage, which is, obviously, illegal. But if killing 23 civilians at an aid distribution site is not terrorism, how can we possibly be expected to accept that spray-painting a plane is? Law-abiding protest has so far failed to stop the genocide. More than 50,000 innocent children have been killed or injured. In what circumstances could civil disobedience ever be justified if not now? I can only say that I admire and support Palestine Action wholeheartedly โ and I will continue to, whether that becomes a terrorist offence or not.โ - Sally Rooney
One wonders how the 6 assholes on the Supine Court would take this data to make it something more horrible, frightening and destructive? I'm sure those filthy assholes will find a way!
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@Friendica Admins @Friendica Developers @Friendica Support What is the consensus on adding relays in #friendica, do they actually help #federation, do they reduce it, speed it up, slow it down, increase it, as a concept I understand it as say #hamradio relays, it allows your reach to go further, but since my instance is federated, how much further do relays actually deliver my posts, and again does it actually help to have them? I have tried a few, with mixed results and I am rather baffled by their existence and usability in relation to my instance, any clear answers would be appreciated.
To understand what relays do you need to understand how federation works. Your posts can't reach every server because your server doesn't even know that most of them exist, so initially they'll only go to servers where at least one person there follows you. If someone reshares or replies it then it'll also go to the servers where they have followers.
Relays exist to fill in the gaps since all your posts are sent to them and then sent on to every server subscribed to them. With a lot of followers you'll have a wide enough reach without them, but until then they're useful for getting out there.
@Mark Currently this node is aware of 34,160 nodes (3,800,250 active users last month, 3,921,889 active users last six months, 25,988,935 registered users in total) so I am clearly mis-understanding alot of this, trying to learn.
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the line is "everyone hates him. The elections are just super corrupt. People can't vote him out.", but his longevity is probably greatly supported by 1. getting to run against Democrats, in SC 2. Democrats being so repulsive overall that more plausible politicians will not even switch parties just to beat Graham 3. Graham having a primary lock due to appealing to boomer Christians, AIPAC funding, and pork 4. Incumbents also tending to win in general due to pork: "I got the government to secure you this specific advantage and I'll do it again" is always more persuasive than "if you vote for me I'll get you an advantage as a rookie senator" 5. getting to face primary threats only from Republicans, in SC: a Republican can't easily even promise to TRY for the pork that he'd need to win, because he'd piss off Republican primary voters who value "small governments" but give a pass to the pork-laden status quo.
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System is Fedora KDE, graphics card is an Asrock Radeon 5900GRE, display is a Gigabyte M34WQ (1440p ultrawide 144Hz refresh rate) attached via DisplayPort.
Despite being on a UPS (which...we're also going to have to talk about) my system was apparently shut down by a thunderstorm. I booted it up, and the display was acting glitchy. I would get two mouse cursors, and below the mouse cursor the screen would go a solid color, as if it was glitching on a pixel and then displaying that from there down.
Switching to a lower refresh rate made the problem go away, I've switched back up and it seems to be alright. A second 1080p60 monitor attached via HDMI didn't show any problem.
Some googling didn't turn up exactly what I was experiencing. Can anyone help troubleshoot this? It seems okay for the moment but I'm hoping I don't have a wounded GPU.
Probably surge damage, honestly. Was your monitor plugged into the UPS or another surge protector, or just into a wall? Do you have any other cables connecting to your machine that aren't on the UPS or a surge protector? Also, a power strip is not equal to a surge protector.
As far as the cause, if you're seeing artifacts on screen past a certain position on the screen, that's the screen or cable, not the GPU. Your display adapter sends fully rendered frames to the display and wouldn't have a specific part of the frame that is corrupted if damaged. Anecdotally speaking, if a GPU has damage, it just won't work.
Also, you may want to check the capacitors on your card and motherboard to make sure they're all still flat and not bulging. If bulging, you took took surge damage and need to redo your cabling to make sure everything is protected.
Everything is attached to the UPS, both the computer and the main monitor are on the battery side. Why the computer was shut off on this UPS, I don't know. I might be switching brands of UPS.
If I switch it down to 60 or 100 Hz, the problem goes away entirely, so I don't think it's a hardware damage issue at this point. Like, I did a software update, I wonder if it's booted up with a slightly newer version of mesa or wayland or something that isn't playing nice.
Check your package manager logs to find out. Also check dmesg just in case.
Edit: you know what...try changing the outlet the monitor is plugged into and see if anything changes. Curious if the signal is weird or the rectifier got damaged by a surge. Maybe try the wall as well to find out if it still does it.
Switched the socket on the GPU the DP cable is plugged into, I think I see the same problem. It's only been a few seconds, I haven't seen the "lower portion of the screen from about the mouse down goes one color" thing yet but I have been seeing a double mouse cursor. This goes away completely when setting the frame rate down to 100 (says 99.98 in the KDE settings menu).
Not sure what I'm looking for in package manager logs or dmesg.
Right now, if I set KDE's settings to 100 Hz, everything looks fine. If I set it to 144 Hz, sometimes I see a double mouse cursor. I get a second cursor about an inch to the right of what seems to be the actual cursor.
Explain how a problem with the UPS will cause that symptom.
When you increase your resolution, your monitor switches power modes. At a higher refresh rate, a dirty power signal can cause artifacts on the screen. Usually this means that you'd see bit crawl on the edges of the screen, but it could show display artifacts like you describe depending on the panel controller.
If your UPS took a hit during a thunderstorm, you could easily have a damaged rectifier in the UPS. That rectifier is responsible for smoothing the power signal coming out the ports on your UPS. A dirty signal can do the above as I mentioned.
You wouldn't notice a problem on your machine because it's own PSU smooths those signals out, but a monitor doesn't have that.
I'm still skeptical that it would cause problems that minor, prior experience tells me it would do something like work fine at low resolution and show no picture or boot loop or something at higher resolution, but for the sake of troubleshooting when there's less convective activity on the radar I'll try plugging it straight into the wall.
I have an AOC AG272FG4 which has started to show artifacts like this and this, the image also becomes choppy and unresponsive but only what it's displayed not the pc itself. It started happening...
Apparently the power failure just happened to coincide with a kernel update that causes a bug with AMD firmware; people are reporting the issue with higher end Radeon 7000 series cards using high refresh monitors attached via DP with kernel 6.15.
My uname -r output: 6.15.3-200.fc42.x86_64
So I can either learn how to revert to kernel 6.14 on Fedora, I've never messed with it before, or live with 100Hz like a bronze age slum rat until they push a fix.
The further mystery is why a momentary power loss took down a PC plugged into a UPS. It has one job, that it apparently didn't do.
I had this same issue, as others have stated it seems to be related to higher refresh rates, as the highest I can go without this issue is 99.95Hz. Operating System: Fedora Linux 41 KDE Plasma Version: 6.4.0 KDE Frameworks Version: 6.15.
Call the UPS manufacturer for coverage, if that fails then call your renters or homeowners insurance, and if that fails I hope you bought an umbrella policy.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •I was married to an abusive alcoholic.
Then I dated a pretty manipulative and creepy guy.
I left both of those relationships, because they were not healthy.
And it fucking SUCKS to hear men out saying "women want to be abused." Fuck you very much. Blame the abuser, not their victim.
So a man manipulates a woman and you get mad at her for being preyed upon? What the actual fuck is that about??? How is that an appropriate attitude to have about victims of actual abuse?
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •When a man who knows and cares about me starts talking about his dating life and goes off on "why do women like jerks?" it's the worst fucking feeling.
Like, dude, that's me. I married a real jerk, a real piece of shit. I thought he loved me. I thought I could help him. I thought we'd both grow and emotionally develop together. I thought we were a team.
And by the time I figured out we weren't? Well, then I had to figure out how to leave.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •I know men who have been in abusive relationships, and you don't see me out here claiming that men want to be abused or that they generally prefer cruel and manipulative women over kind and caring ones.
No. I sympathize with and support my fellow abuse survivors. I don't fucking shame people for the fact that some fucking asshole decided it would be fun to fuck up their life.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •The only reason it feels shameful to identify myself as a victim of spousal abuse is that for some reason some people who hear that are going to make the determination that I am gullible and masochistic, and if I had just been smarter, no one could ever have hurt me.
I don't get how women are excoriated whenever we are perceived as "disloyal" but when we "stand by our man" the way we were taught to, holding out hope that he will change, we're dumb bitches who want men to hurt us.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •I'm so sorry that I gave my partner second chances. I'm sorry that I listened and tried to evaluate if maybe he was right and I was wrong. I'm sorry I forgave him for things. I'm sorry I let things go. I'm sorry I hoped for better from him. I'm sorry I tried to help him deal with his emotional issues.
What a dumb bitch I am for loving someone and not throwing in the towel the moment I sensed something was wrong. But what's that? Oh, you would have condemned me harshly for that too? Cool. Cool.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •By the way, I am not fucking sorry for any of it. I wish I had understood what was happening sooner and left. I wish I had not accepted mistreatment.
But now that I'm in a healthy relationship, all those things that kept me with that shitty guy are the things that make THIS relationship work. I don't assume the worst about him. I consider the possibility I could be wrong. I offer forgiveness. I am supportive when things are tough.
My ex was literally taking advantage of my capacity for love.
Artemis
in reply to Artemis • • •Why do women date assholes? Because we want to be in fulfilling relationships that we know require hard work, forgiveness, and compassion. So sometimes we try way, way harder than we should to make the dang relationship work, because we want to love and be loved.
I didn't want my abusive ex to treat me that awful way. I wanted him to treat ME the way I treated HIM.
PedestrianError
in reply to Artemis • • •Violet Madder
in reply to PedestrianError • • •Well, and abusive assholery is normalized as admirable go-getter behavior, so to some degree people are trained to seek unhealthy dynamics as if decency and kindness are weakness or AT LEAST pretty damned unfamiliar.
PedestrianError
in reply to PedestrianError • • •humanadverb
in reply to Artemis • • •You may be talking about a different dynamic, but especially re: all of those divorced angry guys, I see something more like...
They thought women were like vending machines, and you put in "the work" of being "nice" and they expect certain things back. Except women, like most people, don't enjoy entitlement, especially when, as is often the case, they didn't ask for those things in the first place.
So "I guess I should have been an asshole all along." YOU WERE DUDE THATS THE PROBLEM.